Its commonly stated and theorized that kinks and fetishes develop from traumas and life experiences, an example being folks who had no dad/a bad relationship with their dad may develop a daddy kink. While this is commonly agreed upon, I personally don't believe all kinks develop this way, I want to learn more about where kinks come from, how they develop and why they exist.
source: sexualhealthalliance.com
In a sample of 4,175 Americans:
⛤ 97-98% of people reported having sexual fantasies, 60% of self-identified asexuals report sex fantasies
⛤ 93% of men and 86% of women say they’ve had sexual dreams
⛤ 23.4% reported having acted on their favorite sexual fantasy
My Story (TW: Rape, Overbearing family)
I remember being exposed to sex from a young age due to unmonitored internet access, I first searched up porn probably around the age of nine but I have had sexual dreams before that point. When I was in middle school, around age twelve, I dated someone and explored some more tame-ish sexual topics with them. When I was fifteen I was raped by someone who I thought was a friend. All in all, sex has generally been a part of my life for a while.
Another factor for me personally, I come from a family who was very overbearing and emotionally incestuous, my mom would sexually comment on my body often, I generally wasn't allowed to have privacy. For perspective, I remember once when I was using a vibrator in my room with the door closed, my grandma from the living room texted me asking "Why is your phone going off, is someone calling you?".
These things plus other personal life factors have added up to create me, a traumatized and kinky, sex fascinated individual, one who enjoys exhibitionism and learning about the links between sex life and kinks, and ones psychology and mental health.